“There are no words to magically take away the
hurt or the sadness or the pain of this brutal ending: the ending of a love.” A
break-up brings much pain, but pain is temporary because of the various ways to
nurse your wounds and carry on. Cope with your feelings and don’t fight them,
talk it out with your family or close friends, list the advantages of being
single, and most importantly don’t lose faith in another relationship.
break-up is always accompanied with an immense variety of powerful and
emotional feelings including anger, confusion, sadness, jealousy and regret.
And if you bury all your feelings inside your mind you will only prolong the
grieving process, which might lead to a complete mental breakdown down the
road. Healthy coping is when identity these intense emotions and let yourself
actually experience and let them out. The sooner you let it all out, the better
and quicker the grieving process will be. Grieving typically includes:
depression, denial, negotiating and hopefully at the end of it all, acceptance.
Acceptance is the moment the moment you are finally able to move on from your
loss. In order to survive a break-up, you must swallow the bitterness of
reality. Cliché as it may sound but reality does truly bite hard, and leave a
heavy mark. It’s now all up to you to take that scar as a lesson and not as a
punishment. Give yourself plenty of time to heal, and remember that only time
will heal all your wounds. Put away the pictures and the gifts that remind you
of your former companion because a part of loving is learning to let go. Resist
the temptations to call or message your ex to get together because rebound
relationships are always an ugly mistake. Keep yourself busy doing anything
that makes you feel good about yourself.
it was highly recommended to openly talk about your feelings. You can talk
about your feelings regarding your break-up with anyone you can trust, love,
and respect. By simply talking to a family member or a friend, you can come to
new and better perceptions and even find a cure to your internal pain. Holding
those negative feelings within you just never is the solution, no matter what
the circumstance is. Expressing and discussing these emotions not only takes
the load off your chest, you can potentially discover that what you are going
on is actually very common and many have gone through the similar situation and
survived perfectly fine, happier than ever. Don’t isolate yourself, especially
when you feel hopeless.
to your friends or loved one also keeps your mind off your past relationship
and instead boost your other relations. Make a plan to go out with your friends,
whether it is a plan to grab dinner, going bowling, or any other way you love
to spend pleasurable time. It’ll make you realize being single isn’t bad after
all and actually gives you the opportunity to do whatever you like, whenever you
like and not dwell on the past.
addition to discussing your feelings, you should also consider listing all the advantages
of being single. Start by getting comfortable in your own private space, sit
down, and simply close your eyes and take a deep breath. Loosen your body and
soothe your mind, and grab a piece of paper and something to write with. Soon
after, just start to jot down the benefits of being single. As silly as this
may sound, writing down these pros will actually stimulate positivity to your
negatively affected mood. Just to get you started, here a few reasons to remind
you the blessings being single gives: you can have the whole bed to yourself; you
can be as messy as you want without any criticism; you will have much more
individual freedom; you will have more control over your daily routines and no
longer have to negotiating and compromise around them. But most importantly, it
is essential to understand that now you are capable to out your own needs first
and don’t have to please anyone else. This step in surviving a break-up may
seem unnecessary, but by writing out the advantages of being single gives you a
visual of the endless reasons to not feel any remorse over one unsuccessful relationship.
final and most important stage in overcoming a break-up is to come to an
understanding to not lose any faith in another relationship. The first step, is
to rid that belief that all relationships are untrustworthy, a waste of time,
and just simply a bad idea. Generalizing from one faulty relationship is the
worst way to get back up from a heart break. If you stick to this negative
belief, you will miss out on the beautiful opportunities for a relationship worth
having. Instead of generalizing all relationships, try to learn from your past
relationships. This does not mean to find ways to blame yourself for the
relationship coming to an end, instead make it a moment in which you understand
how to have a stronger relationship in the future. Learning promotes self-growth,
which is the second step in keeping faith for another chance. Once the time has
come, in which you took the effort to self-reflect, take the final initiative
in surviving a break-up which is dating again.
Remind yourself that you were able to survive on your
own before you were ever in a relationship and that you will be able to
continue to thrive on your own even after the relationship. There are things that
we do not want to happen, but have to accept; things we do not want to know,
but have to learn; and a person we cannot live without, but have to let go.
Relationships are like a glass, sometimes it is better to leave them broken
than seeking to put it back together and potentially hurting yourself. No
matter how painful and heart-breaking a break-up is, there is always a chance to
start all over again, fresh and stronger. Never let a break-up get you down.